AGILE MARRIAGE MANIFESTO

Written by: Aaron G. Tucker, M.Ed, SPC

In November of 2021, in a driveway overlooking some trees and neighboring houses in Centennial Colorado, one independent thinker, self-described as “The Agilists Coach” sat to think, drink, relax, and try to find common ground with his new spouse.

What emerged was the Agile Marriage Manifesto, a set of principles that some may find comical, otherworldly, and/or pure genius. Others may not.

Our highest priority is to satisfy each other
through early and continuous delivery
of affection, understanding, and agreement.

Welcome changing minds, even late in
a plan. Agile marriages accept change as an inevitability that can later be used as a conversational advantage.

Deliver affection frequently, from every
couple of hours to every couple of days, with a
preference to the shorter timescale.

Spouses must work together daily throughout the marriage.

Build marriages around trusted individuals.
Give each other the environment and support needed,
and trust each other to do the right thing.

The most efficient and effective method of
conveying information to and within a marriage
is face-to-face conversation.

A loving marriage is the primary measure of success.

Agile households promote sustainable marriages.
The spouses, children, and pets should be able
to access individual space periodically.

Continuous attention to culinary excellence
and good housekeeping enhances agility.

Serenity–the art of maximizing the amount
of arguing not done–is essential.

The best households, honey-do-lists, and dinners
emerge from self-organizing spouses.

At regular intervals, spouses reflect on how
to have a more effective relationship, then tune and adjust
their behavior accordingly.